Weather the Storms of Marriage

Hi all!! It’s been a long time since I last updated this blog but I am going to try and turn that around!! I try to share things on Facebook and I probably still will but some posts are just too long and honestly, some people just don’t want to read them…so here we are!!

The past few months I have had multiple people come up to me and comment on my relationship with Kyle. Sure I love being complimented how we are the perfect couple and as humble as that makes me feel, we are just like any other couple…we have our ups and we have our downs!

We have been through so much; I love Kyle with all my heart but we have definitely had highs and lows. This past year we renewed our vows and that was for a lot of reasons unseen to the public eye. I had a friend who asked how many times I planned to renew my vows and honestly I can’t think of any reason why anyone wouldn’t want to share their love with their special one at all times.

You see, Kyle and I have wavered through marriage the last 7 years and even though at times it was rainbows and unicorns, there is always a storm before the rainbow. At the age of 24, we buried my father. At the age of 25, we miscarried our first baby. At the age of 26, we had our daughter 5 weeks early and had to spend 3 weeks in the NICU and take her home on oxygen. At the age of 28, we had our second baby who was a challenge from before he came into this world. We had to have him via C-Section as he wouldn’t turn and he literally screamed for at least 16-18 hours a day.

You see we have weathered all of these storms together and at times when it feels like the ship is about to sink, a little ray of sunshine peaks its head out and we know that everything is going to be ok. Even though we have chosen to share our vows three times (got married in December 2010 with my family alone so that my dad could be there; he died in March of the following year; April 2011 as that was when our actual wedding had been planned; and this year we renewed our vows in Deadwood). These past few years I have struggled with a lot of emotions from dealing with my father’s death to coping with an unhappy newborn for the last 2 years (he honestly still doesn’t sleep through the night and can survive off a 25 minute nap), to dealing with an unhappy body that can’t seem to find its rhythm 90% of the time.

So to anyone who is wondering, celebrate LOVE every day because honestly, one day it won’t be here any longer. I always can hear my mother’s advice when I call her when Kyle has done something to upset me…”at least you have someone at home to have those little fights with”. No she doesn’t mean that she misses fighting but she misses the ups and downs of marriage with her one true love. Kyle and I have fought hard to keep our marriage together and for that, it is worth celebrating each and every time with our family and friends!

For all of you out there, LOVE like there is no such thing as a broken heart as a great country song says. Celebrate you because trust me, the man I married 7 years ago is not the same man that I have sitting in the chair next to me. That alone is a reason to celebrate because that proves that you are changing as a couple and that is must needed! Go out in life and show everyone your love because that’s what life is about!! As for Kyle and I, there will be more storms to weather but that will give us one more reason to celebrate again after the rainbow has appeared!!